Your negative assumptions about me is very inaccurate!
I must say, I think it’s really awful how many people get treated unfairly, humiliated, abused, etc. by certain people, (who are just mean, rude, self-absorbed, racist, prejudice, and just very inconsiderate of others.) I got bullied in school for not being rich and because of a father identity problem, regarding who my real father was. The hurtful memories! Second grade, all the girls from my class took a class picture together during recess, but they told me I couldn’t be in their picture with them. They had on cool clothes, my clothes wasn’t too cool for them I guess. I was extremely saddened by their words, my gosh I held on to those words for all these years, this was way back in the ‘90s it’s now 2019. Readers! I was even bullied in pre-school all because my hair was big, some of the classmates literally try to cut my hair. Also, there was that time when one middle class girl in high school said to me (during choir class) “It must be hard to be an outcast.” Thanks! I’ve never thought of myself as being an outcast until then, especially after our High School Christmas Choir Concert, the same girl who basically told me I was an “outcast” her mom talked to my mom and me (we knew her mom from when I was a student in middle school) well she told her mom not to talk to us, all because the other middle class mommy’s and daddy’s were there. Never-mind that we were people like them too. Smh! However, No! I’m not perfect! As a child I was dealing with health conditions, I was also a victim of childhood abuse. So yes, sometimes I didn’t listen to the teacher and sometimes I was just a little too hyper, or too quiet, stay more to myself, even a bit of an rebellious teen, but I didn’t deserve to be bullied like that! Your mean words, your cruel treatment toward me became a permanent part of me. But, despite being bullied, and father identity problem, etc. I’m very grateful! All the bad I’ve gone through, taught me so much, and taught me not to treat people the way I’ve been treated.
Thank You to the one person from years ago in middle school, who apologized to me for how you treated me.🙂
I can also say I did have one true amazing friend… Miss You K.S.! Hope Heaven Is All You Dreamed It Would Be!
Also, Prayers to those of you being bullied, Prayers to those of you who are going through a hard time right now. And if you don’t believe in prayers, that’s okay! Stay strong, Stay hopeful, Stay positive and don’t allow other people to steal your joy away. Latisha❤️
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How much of ourselves do we have to sacrifice to be somebody in this world and to be respected?
Wow! This made me a bit sick to my stomach reading this article. I personally can’t imagine changing the name that was giving to me just to be accepted or as it was called “get ahead.”SMH! And I grew up in a mostly white race neighborhood, even went to a mostly white race school and been in classes where I was the only kid with brown skin.
Yes I publish with an abbreviated name, but almost everyone who follows my blog know my name is Latisha and almost everyone part of my life call me Tisha. 😎
I personally don’t think her real name sound black and what is a black sounding name anyway? It’s kind of like the whole good hair/bad hair thing, dark skin/light skin and skin bleach thing. No offense! But her middle name she used don’t sound much different from her first name. And she decided to go back and use her first name after giving a speech about Cardi B. Really?!?
•I’m not saying this person has insecurities or anything•
But I’ve been around some people with some major insecurities problems, who will even try to project their insecurities onto other people.
For example, this black female family member of mines will always talk bad about other black women including her own female family members. When you give another black woman (in front of her) a good compliment like (being a good single mom,) she will tell you how terrible of person that woman is. And there’s always the “you look nice, but.”
We were in the store the other day and she just randomly told a biracial store clerk ” I wish I could get my hair to look like yours, mix people have good hair.” I was so embarrassed by her saying that. 🙄
Why would she want her hair to look like someone else’s?……. Her hair looked great!!!
I have an amazing dear friend who is white and this same black female family member of mines had the audacity to tell me that my friend “would never take” me to visit their “home town” because I’m “not white.” I was so baffled hearing those words to the point that I started to believe what she said, but that was part of her plan to make me start feeling like my white friend was ashamed of me because my skin is brown, and like I’m not good enough to visit their home town for that reason. SMH!
The Question For Today Is,
Do you think some black/brown women have more insecurities than most people?
You rarely ever hear about a white woman wanting to change her name because it don’t sound white enough, heck you rarely ever hear about a black man wanting to change his name because it sound too black.
What’s funny is, I did a topic awhile back about how some people of my own race said I don’t talk black…
Today I’m defending names! There’s probably a little girl somewhere out there with the name Tanisha and after reading what this other Tanisha said is probably now feeling like she can’t “Get Ahead” all because of what her name is.
Good grades, a positive attitude and hard work will get you ahead! Let me tell you there’s so many powerful black women out there who are ahead and they didn’t have to change their name to sound less black.