Do you think some black/brown women have more insecurities than most people? “I saw no one who looked like me or had a name that sounded like mine. I was convinced I couldn’t make it as Tanisha.” #SMH


How much of ourselves do we have to sacrifice to be somebody in this world and to be respected?

Wow! This made me a bit sick to my stomach reading this article. I personally can’t imagine changing the name that was giving to me just to be accepted or as it was called “get ahead.”SMH! And I grew up in a mostly white race neighborhood, even went to a mostly white race school and been in classes where I was the only kid with brown skin.

Yes I publish with an abbreviated name, but almost everyone who follows my blog know my name is Latisha and almost everyone part of my life call me Tisha. 😎

I personally don’t think her real name sound black and what is a black sounding name anyway? It’s kind of like the whole good hair/bad hair thing, dark skin/light skin and skin bleach thing. No offense! But her middle name she used don’t sound much different from her first name. And she decided to go back and use her first name after giving a speech about Cardi B. Really?!?


Insecurities Topic

•I’m not saying this person has insecurities or anything•

But I’ve been around some people with some major insecurities problems, who will even try to project their insecurities onto other people.

For example, this black female family member of mines will always talk bad about other black women including her own female family members. When you give another black woman (in front of her) a good compliment like (being a good single mom,) she will tell you how terrible  of person that woman is. And there’s always  the “you look nice, but.”

We were in the store the other day and she just randomly told a biracial store clerk ” I wish I could get my hair to look like yours, mix people have good hair.” I was so embarrassed by her saying that. 🙄

Why would she want her hair to look like someone else’s?……. Her hair looked great!!!

Another example,

I have an amazing dear friend who is white and this same black female family member of mines  had the audacity to tell me that my friend “would never take” me to visit their “home town” because I’m “not white.” I was so baffled hearing those words to the point that I started to believe what she said, but that was  part of her plan to make me start feeling like my white friend was ashamed of me because my skin is brown, and like I’m not good enough to visit their home town for that reason. SMH!

The Question For Today Is,

Do you think some black/brown women have more insecurities than most people?

You rarely ever hear about a white woman wanting to change her name because it don’t sound white enough, heck you rarely ever hear about a black man wanting to change his name because it sound too black.


What’s funny is, I did a topic awhile back about how some people of my own race said I don’t talk black…


Today I’m defending names! There’s probably a little girl somewhere out there with the name Tanisha and after reading what this other Tanisha said is probably now feeling like she can’t “Get Ahead” all because of what her name is.

Good grades, a positive attitude and hard work will get you ahead! Let me tell you there’s so many powerful black women out there who are ahead and they didn’t have to change their name to sound less black.


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